Thursday, February 9, 2012

Gratitude



When S and I were divorcing I thought one time how nice it must be for some divorced/remarried couples to have two extra people who loved the kids and were there to help. And when you take out the negative emotions that come up sometimes, it really is a blessing.

S and Miss C took the boys last night on what is usually one of my nights. He took them to the dentist and  they took them to school this morning. I was able to focus on my sick baby and husband knowing that my sweet littles were being loved and fed and taken care of.

This morning I was talking to a mama friend who is still married, and also has three kids. We were discussing how stressful the day to day running of a household is WITHOUT sudden illness and when she heard the boys were with their dad she said: 'I wish I had somewhere to send my kids sometimes!'

It seems that blended families are the new extended families. I don't have grandparents, aunts, uncles, etc. to lean on but thankfully I do have another set of parents I can call in emergencies.

It is sometimes hard emotionally to *share* but I'm getting better at dealing with that, I think.

This morning I checked my phone and saw that both S and Miss C had texted to ask how baby G was doing. It felt good to know they cared and were there for us.

1 comment:

Laura said...

Ok, so I'm just reading MSTB for the first time since your divorce I believe. Laura was here! I'll be reading more of your posts moving backward and then I guess I'll be all caught up on Jen.

BTW, I telling on your brother. I tried to "friend" Frank on FB and I guess he's not interested. Kinda makes me sad because I harbor no resentments and that was years ago. It's not even that I wonder about him, like, ever... except that in a few meandering conversations I've mentioned that I have an ex that is now a guitar maker to some of my guitarist friends and they would like to know more/maybe make a purchase, but ya know, I wonder if Frank is like not interested in being in touch with me.

I've had a lot of coffee. Hi Frank!